There is an odd phenomenon that I have witnessed over and over again when mentoring new health coaches.
It’s what I call being ‘thrown back in the trenches’.
This came into play recently with my UPswing Mastermind students. They were all diving deep into their ideal client/ target market. And things were starting to surface. Wobbles were starting to show.
In the group Laser Coaching calls, I was being asked what was going on – why this felt so uncomfortable.
As I write this to you from high up above the world I am feeling a massive sense of freedom (yup, I’m currently experiencing one of my bucket list experiences – flying from NYC to LA on Virgin America First Class - (a whole other post to write on this experience!).
In fact, this entire trip has been all about FREEDOM at a whole new level of awareness and unfolding for me.
When I first started out as a new health coach, I noticed the same people seemed to get all the attention in the media. Their names consistently came up in places where I was hanging out online.
On the one hand, I was happy for them, because I firmly believe in appreciating the success of others and seeing that what is possible for someone else is therefore possible for me.
And it’s great that people are doing meaningful work and getting attention for it. Everyone deserves to have the highest success when they are authentically sharing their gifts with the world and uplifting others.
But..... on the other hand, there was one thing that kept nagging at me…
“I feel like I’m putting myself out there. I’m doing talks on Health & Wellbeing at the gym, and I’m posting on Facebook, but it just doesn’t seem to be going to that next level. I want to be getting paying clients.”
“I feel frustrated because I’ve been putting in a lot of effort it seems and I’m not getting results.”
“Where am I going wrong? I know my stuff. I feel I should be way more ahead than I am.”
Sound familiar? Not only do I hear this often from new Health Coaches in my UPswing Mastermind, but I went through this exact scenario myself when I was starting out.
Let me offer some relief by saying this…
It is absolutely normal to be feeling frustrated when you’re not getting the results you hoped for.
Your inner child IS going to start getting stroppy and grumpy if you’re giving, giving, giving and not getting.
At a spirited urban retreat I attended last December here in Sydney, we did an exercise around receiving that turned into a major “aha” moment for me.
Basically, we had to allow our partner (a stranger) to give to us, in the form of a shoulder massage, and see how much we could fully trust that it was safe to receive.
It surprised me to find that I experienced some resistance during this process. I kept wondering when the time would be up, and feeling like I needed to give back in order to “deserve” this.