mentoring

Have you been thrown back in the trenches?

Have Your Been Throwing Back in the Trenches as a Coach

There is an odd phenomenon that I have witnessed over and over again when mentoring new health coaches.

It’s what I call being ‘thrown back in the trenches’.

This came into play recently with my UPswing Mastermind students. They were all diving deep into their ideal client/ target market. And things were starting to surface. Wobbles were starting to show.

In the group Laser Coaching calls I was being asked what was going on – why this felt so uncomfortable.

Well, what I have observed from helping hundreds of Health Coaches grow their businesses, is that sometimes when a woman makes a decision to say YES to becoming a coach –not just talking about it, but seriously deciding to go for it– it can feel as if the Universe has a little laugh.

“Oh yea, you’re really serious?” it seems to snicker, “Then let’s throw you back in the trenches to struggle for a bit again – just so you can remember what it TRULY feels like to be your ideal client.”

You see, for many of us we have been called to be a coach after overcoming a massive transformation in our own life.

And after coming out the other side it can feel like ‘I’ve got it’ and I want to share this with other women going through what I did.

But from that place of ‘already mastered this’ we can lose touch with how it felt ‘back then’.  We can be quick to forget the true pain;  what it is really like to be going through that experience. 

 

We forget things like:

·      What you would truly need support on

·      What you would actually buy to overcome the pain

·      What tools and resources you would need to create lasting change

·      What shifts you’d need to make to your mindset in order to heal

And so the Universe gives you a little ‘helping hand’ to jog your memory.
 

And it might suck at the time (it DOES suck at the time, that I can attest to), but this makes for the creation of a REAL and GENUINE coaching program for your ideal clients – one they WANT TO BUY.  And it makes you an even better coach.  A truly compassionate coach.

And if you wonder why people are lining up to work with you asking, ‘How do you know I feel that way?’ or ‘It’s like you read my mind with your copy…’, it’s because you revisited your former self and got even more clear on what your pain points were and exactly what you did to overcome them.

 

Here’s a perfect example of how it worked for me:

A few months ago, I myself had a (thankfully very brief) return to the trenches with my money story.

I invested a HUGE amount of money – more than I had ever done in my life – in myself.  And…you guessed it…a whole lot of money fears reared their head.

At first I got scared, and my first reaction was: ‘I thought I had this money thing sorted?!’

Then I realized I was going to have to walk my talk by going back through all of my own teachings again. And because I had to do so step-by-step again – I was able to this time document it as I went.  I delivered those exact steps to the ladies who joined my new mastermind program.

I had never before been able to articulate the ‘steps’ of wealth consciousness with this level of clarity – and days after that training many women were making thousands of dollars from their first clients. (I hadn’t even taught them ‘how’ to get clients yet… it was purely from me being able to teach ‘wealth consciousness’ in a new way after a brief stint back in the trenches).

So, if this phenomenon happens to you when you finally make a proclamation to the universe that you are ready to play bigger (note that my ‘return to the trenches’ happened after I stepped up to a higher biz mastermind’), then try and relax if you can – but most importantly – document what you do to climb back out yourself.

This is what you are meant to be teaching to others!

I’d love to hear your own experiences of being ‘thrown back in the trenches’. Share in the comments how it helped you to grow as a person, and how it shaped what you are teaching (or desire to teach) others.

And if you want to know more about how to get to know who your ideal clients are, then read my blog post, “4 ways to identify your health coaching target audience” HERE: http://www.amandajdaley.com/blog/2015/9/6/4-ways-to-identify-your-health-coaching-target-audience

Amanda x

 
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Are you truly open to FREEDOM? (I wasn’t until this happened this week…)

Are you truly open to Freedom

 

Happy July 4th week! WOW – what a gift it has been to spend Independence Day in NYC this year with some of my favourite business buddies. 

As I write this to you from high up above the world I am feeling a massive sense of freedom (yup, I’m currently experiencing one of my bucket list experiences – flying from NYC to LA on Virgin America First Class - (whole other post to write on this experience) In fact this entire trip has been all about FREEDOM at a whole new level of awareness and unfolding for me. 

Some of you may remember that my husband broke his collar bone a few days before I was due to come on this trip.

I did postpone my flight for a few days, but I didn’t let the ‘rules’ or opinions of others hold me back from following through on my own path to spending 6 weeks in the US this summer.

 

 

In fact even once I was over here, I found I wanted to stay longer, but I was running a story in my head that 4 weeks was the ‘limit’… that after that I was a ‘bad wife’….

I chatted to John about this and he shared that actually, it was easier for him to heal when he’s home alone and he’s much happier knowing I’m following my dreams.

(HOW awesome is he? Right?!)

It was a massive wakeup call for me that I was still putting my own desires last in many decisions I make, often worrying about what others might think. 

You see we all have stories in our mind which hold us back from following our truth. And most of the time that are just that - stories!

Sometimes we are even carrying other people’s stories around with us (I had plenty of other peoples opinions on why I should be home with John – not ‘galavanting’ the world….)

Realising it is ‘safe’ to keep following what feels great to me has been such a big gift – and each time I’ve extended this trip further, yet another opportunity has come my way that I could never have planned if I tried. 

On my path of learning to follow my heart’s guidance and following what lights me, I always choose to set an intention for each new month.

 

For June my intention was “Connection”

When I told a mentor that I was coming to NYC to ‘connect’ with people, she asked if I actually had any meetings lined up and I felt almost embarrassed to say ‘no’.

Stories started playing in my head that I was wasting my time going to NYC, I wouldn't meet people there, no-one would have time to meet with me....

Those sneaky stories again!

Yet when you set an intention, and let yourself be guided instead of trying to ‘work it all out in your head’, magic can unfold.

 

Just a few of my highlights from NYC are:

-       Entrepreneurs lunch in Soho

-       Broadway shows with business buddies

-       Creators Dinners in Soho

-       Juices in Madison Square Park with entrepreneur friends

-       Sunday rooftop BBQs in Queens with best friends

-       Lunching with UPswing Mastermind clients in Chelsea

-       Coffee meetup with a mentor in the Upper Westside

-       Intimate night gathering on a Brooklyn rooftop with raw chocolate, rose and                 fempreneurs

-       Working in the Ace Hotel Lobby (best draft cold brew, tunes, couches and wifi in           town)

-       Lounging at the Equinox Pool (followed by massages)

-       Bike riding around Central Park

-       Lunches and dinners with family friends

 

Not bad for what was meant to be a quick trip to NYC after my business mastermind in Austin. (where I connected with 30 of the worlds top business people too!)

If I had have followed my original ‘plans’ of heading back home to Sydney to be a 'good wife', instead of following my hearts desires, I would not have allowed my intention to unfold for my highest good.

As I watched the July 4th fireworks from the luxurious 53rd floor midtown NYC apartment I’ve been staying in with my friend, surrounded by some of my favourite biz buddies – I was full of gratitude for a new depth of Independence and Freedom that is available to us today as women entrepreneurs.

This freedom comes from dropping our stories, dropping our fears and daring to follow the whispers of our heart (even when others think you’re crazy)

We all have dreams – growing your business, leaving your day job, hitting your first $5k month, spending winter in a country that’s in summer, more connection, more freedom….

And it is honestly only our stories which hold us back from experiencing these!

While the world continues to explore and celebrate independence on a global scale, we as woman are experiencing this within ourselves in tandem.

We are waking up to the truth that we have choice.

We have the choice to step into even more freedom each and every day – in our lives, in our businesses – and so it is more important than ever to drop our own stories, drop the judgments of others and ask ‘what would I do today if there were NO LIMITS or rules at all?’

Continually asking this question on this trip not only led to mind blowing experiences here in NYC, but is also the reason I’m heading to LA tonight instead of rushing home.

I’m not sure what will unfold in LA, but I will tell you next week the pretty crazy story of how I ended up adding 8 days in LA to this trip. (and getting upgraded to First Class)

My intention for July is “Self-Care” – I’d love to hear yours!!

Let’s see how July – the month of freedom and choice – unfolds together. 

Love

Amanda xx

 
 
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How PR changed my biz game and upped my expert status

How PR Change my Business Game

When I first started out as a new Health Coach, I noticed the same people seemed to get all the attention in the media. Their names consistently came up in places where I was hanging out online.

  • It seemed like every week they were showing up in a new place – interviewed on podcasts with thousands of listeners, quoted in top magazines, and guest blogging for the biggest online sites.

  • I’d see them announce in their email newsletter, “My new book just hit #1 on the bestseller list!”

  • Every time they opened up their signature group program for people to join, hundreds of people flocked to join on the very first day.

  • They would write a heartfelt, vulnerable post on Facebook, and within an hour 300 people had “liked” it or shared it.

 

On the one hand, I was happy for them, because I firmly believe in appreciating the success of others and seeing that what is possible for someone else is therefore possible for me.

And it’s great that people are doing meaningful work and getting attention for it. Everyone deserves to have the highest success when they are authentically sharing their gifts with the world and uplifting others.
 

But..... on the other hand, there was one thing that kept nagging at me…

 


 

I was ready to authentically share my message and my gifts, too!  

Deep down, I had always known I was meant to do something big; to touch lives and impact the world.

 But it felt like I was watching others shine while sitting on the sidelines.

 So I started taking PR seriously and took action to get the media’s attention.

My Health Coaching business was called Fuel Urban Wellness, and being featured in high-profile places was a game changer in getting clients and selling my Driven Woman’s Detox program, for example.

Having the media publish what I had to say gave me the credibility that I saw in the other health industry experts I was following.

As a new Health Coach, a small boost in your credibility can make all the difference in getting your business off the ground. PR is one of the best ways to do this when starting out.

Getting exposure on sites such as Mind Body Green, Tiny Buddha and Women’s Health & Fitness was a massive boost for my business. It was the start of me being seen as a true expert in the field of Health Coaching. 

And in my current business today, media has continued to play a part in my being seen as the go-to authority in my field.

My front page article in the Sydney Morning Herald and Melbourne Age as a business mentor moved the needle forward MASSIVELY in my business.

The real thing to note is that getting 'visibility' as a Health Coach comes BEFORE you are already seen as an expert. In fact, getting exposure in these ways goes along way towards being positioned as an expert FAST - even if you are still a beginner. 
 

 

 
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3 Ways To Get Your Spark Back When Nothing's Going Right

3 Ways to Get your Spark Back

“I feel like I’m putting myself out there. I’m doing talks on Health & Wellbeing at the gym, and I’m posting on Facebook, but it just doesn’t seem to be going to that next level. I want to be getting paying clients.”

“I feel frustrated because, I’ve been putting in a lot of effort it seems and I’m not getting results.”

“Where am I going wrong? I know my stuff. I feel I should be way more ahead than I am.”

Sound familiar? Not only do I hear this often from new Health Coaches in my UPswing Mastermind, but I went through this exact scenario myself when I was starting out.

Let me offer some relief by saying, it is absolutely normal to be feeling frustrated when you’re not getting the results you hoped for – your inner child IS going to start getting stroppy and grumpy if you’re giving, giving, giving and not getting.

Vibration is everything. And it’s hard to keep that stamina and that excitement if we’re not getting rewards back. Little inner child’s going to start getting stroppy and grumpy if you’re giving, giving, giving and not getting.

A large amount of what I’ve learned around feminine energy, is that as women the reason we are getting burnt out is because we do just give, give, give and we don’t get anything back. That’s because we’re not asking or we don’t know to ask, or we don’t think it’s okay to ask.

By asking, I mean, when we’re putting ourselves out there, we need to be asking for the sale. I cover this in detail in my Mastermind – how to sell soulfully without being ‘salesy’.

In business we DO have to ask. It’s something that I had to work on as a woman, and something I encourage all of my new Health Coaches to do, too.

It’s the reason salesmen make a lot of money.

In my own business, for example, maybe one or two people have emailed me in maybe the last 4 years and asked me about one on one coaching. People don’t come to me;  I go to them.

When I think back to a time when my one on one clients were up to 25 at a time – fully booked –there is only a handful of people who came to me.

We do have to be the ones asking for the sale; asking people to work with us. Sometimes that needs to be a bit ‘pushier’ than we feel comfortable with, but we’re in business and this is the biggest issue I see in the online community, too.

So, it’s normal to get frustrated when you’re not getting results. That frustrated place, though, is not a really high vibe energy to go out and get clients.

 

 

You need to find that thing that’s going to get your spark back. It’s common sense that the person who is excited and out there with passion and wanting to share their message and says, “I’m going to create a video for my ideal clients”, and “I’m going to get out and give a talk” and “Hey you guys, seriously, you need to buy my program because I want you to have what I’ve got because I’ve learnt…” is going to sell over someone who’s feeling like, “People just don’t want to buy – I’m not going to put that up in my FB group because no-one’s going to want to hear from me.”

It’s obvious which one is going to sell, right? But when we’re in it it’s hard.

The key is we need to find in ourselves what’s going to get us back into our high vibe place – what’s going to spark us; what’s going to excite us?

And then choose to get back on the horse. You need to be in that energy to go out there and get visible. First, though, you need to reset.

What would it take for you to reset?

Here are my 3 Ways To Get Your Spark Back When Nothing's Going Right:

 

1.     START WITH SELF-COMPASSION

Acknowledge to yourself that this is part of being an entrepreneur, and that there’s nothing wrong with being in the space you’re in AT ALL.  It’s going to happen time and time again throughout your time in business – even when your business grows. You’re going to launch, put all this effort in…and no one buys. And you don’t know why and you get knocked off the horse. Or you’ve got clients and then someone stops paying. And then you get knocked off.

Compassion has a frequency that heals. Sometimes we feel that we have to be positive, positive, positive all the time and not experience any negativity. Sometimes you have to give compassion for the negative space you’re in. Sometimes what happens is we beat ourselves up because we think we’re wrong for feeling like this and then we end up in a downward spiral. It’s important to acknowledge that you’re not wrong - and then make the choice to come back.

 

2.     CONNECT WITH YOUR MOTIVATOR

People tend to be motivated by one of 4 things – we have elements of all four, but one will be dominant.

My friend Robyn Jackson Brooks is an expert in the field of these 'Will Drivers' - aka what motivates us and shares he signature tips with us.

She advises: ask yourself this question to find out which is your dominant motivator, ‘Why is building this business so important for me?’

(i)              Autonomy – wanting freedom. It would be more important to this person that they work on their own schedule; that they are not told what to do by a boss. Most freedom people want to be by themselves, not in a group like a mastermind.

(ii)            Mastery – wanting to master things. A lot of people would come to a mastermind for mastery; wanting to learn from the best. They have questions like, how can I improve this? and how can I build my business? how can I get better at this?

If you resonate with the Mastery motivator, you might like to read Ash’s story, “To Be The Best You Have to Learn From The Best” over at my blog. 

(iii)           Purpose – wanting to connect with the big reason you’re doing what you do. You may say, I don’t care if I’m getting paid, what’s the impact it’s having?

(iv)           Connection – wanting belonging. This person is motivated by how they are perceived by the people close to them, not people they don’t know. This holds a lot of businesses back because we’re worried about what others think.

Connecting to your motivator will direct you to what lights you up about being in this business.

You are not wrong, by the way, if you don’t have Purpose as your motivator – if you’re not purely in it to be Mother Theresa, but you’re in it because you want to have a killer blog and you love talking about health and you want to master that (Mastery). Of course you’re still helping people.

Maybe it is more about ‘all I care about is how I help people’. There’s no right or wrong here.

Once you have identified your motivator, it’s about coming back to that every day and asking, “How can I help people today?”

It might be as simple as I need to go for a run, or I need to walk away for a week – feeling like you have the freedom again.

What would it be for you to get excited again?

 

3.     TURN YOUR BELIEFS AROUND

Picture a film projector. There’s a piece of film in the front of the projector, with light coming through the film and projecting a movie onto a white wall. That film is the beliefs that we have going on at any given moment.

So the light (which is actually your inner light that shines from you) is being shone through that film and it’s getting tainted by your beliefs – even if you’re coming up with mantras like, ‘I desire 5 clients’, etc.

What you’re projecting through the film is, ‘No-one wants to buy’,  ‘I’m probably being annoying’, ‘it’s not working’, whatever it might be. No matter what the intention is behind, it you’re projecting what’s on the film.

The good thing is you can change what’s on the film.

The realignment that needs to happen is, ‘I’m going to act as if everyone wants to buy’ or ‘I’m going to set up a workshop because there are 10 people out there who would love to come and hear what I have to say, and there’ll be a couple of people in there who’d love to work with me and have the lifestyle I have’.

When you are coming from that place with your film, you’ll see a change.

I’d love to hear from you if there’s anything you have tried that got you back on the horse when you weren’t getting results as you grow your Health Coaching business. Or if one of the 3 ways above has worked for you and what results you got from it. Let me know in the comments.

 
 
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Are you truly open to receiving $5k months? (the answer may surprise you…)

Are you truly open to receiving $5K a month

 

At a spirited urban retreat I attended last December here in Sydney, we did an exercise around receiving that turned into a major “aha” moment for me.

Basically, we had to allow our partner (a stranger) to give to us, in the form of a shoulder massage, and see how much we could fully trust that it was safe to receive.

It surprised me to find that I experienced some resistance during this process. I kept wondering when the time would be up, and feeling like I needed to give back in order to “deserve” this.

Let me tell you: I thought I had this receiving thing DOWN after the massive work I’ve done around Wealth Consciousness that helped me get to $5k months as a health coach… then to my current multiple 6-figure coaching biz.

Turns out, there are always more depths to explore! 

(If you’re struggling to meet your income goals right now, keep reading… You may have a block around receiving, and I want to help you bust right through it.)

But first, let’s get back to my “aha” moment.

I had been ready to take my business to the next level for quite some time, but it was feeling really hard and heavy whenever I thought about it.

I was stuck in this internal battle of knowing what I am supposed to be putting out into the world, but also feeling like I might burn out if I went for my bigger goals.

So instead, I let them fester away.

When I did this exercise, I realized I had a block around receiving (specifically around receiving the business support I really needed).

And I am not joking – it was literally 30 minutes later that I met the woman who has been supporting me to do this ever since!!!

So let me ask you... Are you able to 100% receive from others,  Jane?

Without guilt, and without feeling unworthy?

If you have blocks around receiving, then I guarantee this will impact your business. In fact, without being able to receive, it’s unlikely you’ll get far at all as a Health Coach.

(This isn’t meant to discourage you – but rather to encourage you to look deeply at your patterns around receiving, and do the work that will open the floodgates and allow everything you desire to show up.)

You are not meant to do this alone. And you don’t have to.

If you’re curious about receiving the support to get to YOUR next level in business, I’d love to help.

Doors for the UPswing Mastermind are closing soon.

Learn more and set up your no-obligation application call >>

Amanda xx

BTW – You CAN work these things out yourself – but you are going to save so much time and money when you allow yourself to be supported by a mentor and group. The power of a mastermind is in bringing so many different minds together on your business.I truly believe that Health Coaches can create a healthier world. But you’re not meant to do it alone.

 
 
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