Hey healthy lady!
Taking the leap to become a health coach is SO EXCITING… but it’s also downright scary!
It is common, normal, and completely natural for new health coaches to lack confidence in their ability to get great results in their coaching sessions.
Let's just think about this logically: How could you possibly be confident that you will get amazing results in a coaching session if you haven't yet done it?!? You can’t!
I watch SO many new health coaches sitting on the sidelines…
Waiting to feel confident before they start coaching…
Or maybe even investing another $5000 in a second or third coaching certification…
When in fact, it’s impossible to feel confident without actually getting in the game and getting started first!
Coaching is a skill. And therefore, just like riding a bike or cooking a souffle, the only way to feel confident is to do it again, and again, and again. Confidence only comes with practice and experience.
So in this ‘ultimate guide’ blog post I am going to walk you through EXACTLY what to do to deliver a kick-ass coaching session — so that you can get out there, get in the game, start practising, and start growing your coaching confidence…
THE FUNDAMENTALS OF COACHING CONFIDENCE
1. Understanding Your Role As A Health Coach
A lot of coaching confidence comes down to understanding the role of a health coach, and what your job is in the coach/client relationship.
A coach coaches. This distinction is important, because I often hear new health coaches worrying that they won't get the results a doctor might, or a nutritionist might. Or getting caught up worrying that they haven’t had the training a doctor has, a nutritionist has.
But a coach is meant to COACH. Not be the doctor, not give a diagnosis, not write a prescription, nor teach the science of nutrition, or create a specific meal plan.
And it's really important that we own this as health coaches. There's a reason that there's a gap in the system right now. This role and support is so needed and valuable. (So much so that Tony Robbins wrote an article on it, here)
Sure, a health coach doesn't replace a doctor… but a doctor will have only 15 minutes to prescribe or diagnose.
Who is there to coach them through lifestyle changes, hold their hand (or hold them accountable), encourage and support them, hold space for them through their difficult moments, and help them have their own breakthroughs?
This is what coaching is all about.
2. Knowing You Are Not Responsible For Your Client’s Results
One of the main reasons I see new health coaches holding themselves back is a feeling of responsibility for the client's results. Of course you will give your best as a coach — but you simply cannot control what a client chooses to do in her own time!
There is a level of ‘letting go of the attachment to the outcome’ that's really important as a coach.
To know that it's not your responsibility to give your client results — but it is your responsibility to show up during your coaching sessions, be deeply present, ask them strategic questions (more on this later!), guide them towards their ‘aha’ moments, provide accountability and support, and share resources and valuable teachings where appropriate.
At the end of the day, that is all you can do as a coach…
Create an environment of deep listening, support and encouragement. While knowing and accepting that you cannot control what your client does in their own time.
3) Being OK With Being A Beginner
You want to be a health coach — and coaching involves skills like active listening… asking strategic questions… getting comfortable with silence and pauses… mirroring your client… asking for permission… quietening your ego and letting go of needing to be right.
These are skills you need to practice, and ultimately master, THROUGH coaching and practice.
So I really encourage you to be okay with being a beginner coach!
You only learn through doing. And you're going to have to take that leap and get in the game at some stage if you want to be successful…so why not do it now and get started? It’s time to get in the game and start coaching — yes, even before you feel ready.
When you get in the game, you'll surprise yourself at how you're already enough. You really are enough to be a great coach for a potential client. (Especially with the tools I am giving you today…so keep reading.)
4) Knowing That You Don’t Have To Be Perfect To Help People
Something I see a lot of new health coaches struggle with is their own imperfections!
Newsflash: Clients don’t want perfect coaches. You don’t have to be living an extraordinary, exemplary, perfect life to be a coach. You don’t need to eat perfectly, never have down days, or never struggle with your own health challenges.
This is a myth that we coaches make up to STOP ourselves taking action!
The truth is: Clients don’t want perfect coaches.
They want people who are real, genuine, compassionate. Who will see them, who will believe in them, and support them with where they are right at that very moment.
If they feel intimidated by your perfection they won’t work with you anyway!
Remember: whatever it is you are struggling with — adrenal fatigue, eczema, relationship issues, whatever — doesn’t negate the fact that you can help people!!
And your level of empathy, compassion, understanding will actually be far greater because of what you are going through, or have gone through.
5) Practising Self-Coaching And/Or Getting Continued Mentorship
There are always worries as a new health coach — niggling fears that you're not good enough, or you don’t know enough, or perhaps you have limiting beliefs around money, your competitors, or how many clients there are.
The key here is taking responsibility for your mindset and for your business. Taking responsibility for your ability to overcome your limiting beliefs, and take the actions you need in order to move forwards in your work.
There are a few ways you can do this:
Exploring your own beliefs and mindsets continually — for example, through a journaling practice. This is going to help you build your confidence, grow your business, and get rid of the things/thoughts/beliefs that aren't serving you anymore.
Working with a mentor or a coach of your own. This looks like continuing to invest in yourself, continuing to be supported — ideally by someone who's a few steps ahead of you on the path that you are wanting to go in your life. Someone who can hold you to a higher place when you have those down days or doubts. Someone who sees your potential, someone who truly knows what's possible, and HOW to do it.
Reading self-development content — this is not only going to improve your own life, but will actually improve your own knowledge bank as a coach!
6) Ask Killer Questions (It’s the KEY to Powerful Coaching!)
This is something we’re going to focus on throughout the rest of this blog post — and to support you further, I've created a free resource called ‘100 Killer Coaching Questions’.
This is a list of my most POWERFUL coaching questions for you to use in your sessions.
Download your copy here >>
The truth is: You don't need a zillion different coaching techniques, or years of experience under your belt to get started, if you start with just one “power tool” in your toolkit — the ability to ask killer coaching questions.
When you master the art of asking questions… and then listening… then asking another question… and then listening… You are stepping into a truly impactful position as a coach.
Trust that the magic of coaching will unfold when you stay present, when you pause and allow space for your client to respond, when you keep listening, and when you take them deeper.
They give you an answer and you ask a deeper question, and a deeper question…
Allow that process, the breakthroughs, the a-has to unfold. If you do this, you will feel a HUGE improvement in your coaching skills, the results you experience with your clients, and your coaching confidence.
Now you understand the foundations of coaching confidence, let’s dive into the coaching HOW-TO’S — so read on to discover how to structure your coaching session, and coach confidently and effectively.