Body Love

How denying your desires is holding you back. Guest Post by Rachel Sizemore.

How denying your desires is holding you back
 


"Your desires are for you."

This is one of the first lessons Amanda taught me in the UPswing Mastermind.  Not only is it ok for you to go for what you want, it is essential. It is the fuel for the engine that will drive your success.

It’s a tricky one for me.  In the big picture way, I know what I want: to share my gifts authentically with the world, to have a freedom lifestyle, to travel, to live at my body’s natural (read: slow) pace.  But especially at the beginning, those desires felt too big, too abstract, too far out of reach to really light me up.

 

 

What did I want right now? I didn’t know.  I thought the little things – a new handbag or a fancy spa day – just didn’t light me up.  Until Amanda challenged me – “Do you believe you deserve to have what you want?”

Of course my initial reaction was “Yes, of course I do.” But after sitting with it a few days, I realized that actually, I didn’t feel deserving.  For several years, my husband had made significantly more money than I did.  I had gotten into the habit of taking a backseat about money, of denying my desires, of not allowing myself to want things – because I didn’t make that money, it wasn’t for me.  And even if I made more money, how could I spend it on myself when I felt so behind in contributing to our family?

Amanda helped me realize that, unconsciously, I felt uneasy about making more money and that deep down, I didn’t feel worthy of spending it.  These beliefs were like a block in my fuel line.  I had been denying my desires and therefore running my business engine on fumes instead of fuel.

When you allow yourself to want what you want and to know that you deserve it, it lights you up. It causes you to sky rocket – literally. Within a few weeks of working through these money blocks, I made $4,200 in 8 days.

"Your desires are for you."

Joining Amanda’s Upswing Mastermind was one of the few desires I allowed myself to feel.  I loved her marketing, her genuine style, how she blends practical business with personal growth.  I knew it was for me.  It took tremendous courage for me to admit that I wanted it, to feel worth it, and to take the leap. I am infinitely grateful that I did, because with the fuel of going for what I want, my business truly has begun to sky rocket. And it’s a hell of a lot more fun.

 
 

This woman is changing the way we look at weight loss

Changing the way we look at weight loss

 

As Health Coaches, we know how important it is to love our bodies but even then, sometimes when we feel our jeans getting a little tight, that negative voice in our head starts saying things like, “I told you to go to the gym and instead you drank a 400 calorie coffee drink- you deserve to feel terrible!”  The guilt trip begins and you find yourself feeling ashamed about your body.  I mean, who hasn’t.  But what’s so interesting is that so often we feel completely alone and embarrassed about our struggle with food and our bodies.  As women we are much faster to share a quick diet tip than we are to talk about the pain of being in a body we reject.

 

 

If you know my incredible friend Sarah Jenks, then you know that she is a brutally open and honest person.  Every time I read her posts I think “I seriously can’t believe she said that out loud.”  Sarah is all about tearing down the walls of shame and having an honest conversation about our lives and bodies.  Something I know you especially appreciate.

Sarah just released a super empowering video series called Real Talk: Women and Our Bodies.  In it, a dozen women, of all ages, sizes and situations, get real about what’s it’s like have a body they hate, what they did about it, and where they are now.  The rawness, vulnerability and honesty of these women blew me away.  I feel like this conversation needs to be happening WAY more often and who better to get the discussion going than our community of inspiring Health Coaches?!

I highly encourage you to watch these videos.  You can see them by clicking here>> And if you are moved to, please share them with the women you care about.  The more we talk about this stuff and heal our own body image issues, the more likely it is for the next generation to grow up without this challenge.

Here they are again >>

Amanda xx